Contents

Part One: Why Don't I Feel Good?

1. How Can I Help You?
2. Feeling Good
3. Surviving and Thriving - Attachment Theory
4. How Attachment Styles are Formed
5. Attachment Styles in Adulthood

Part Two: Taking Action - Mapping My Inner Life

6. Family History and the Genogram
7. Working Out My Attachment Style
8. Putting It All Together - Formulating My Psychological Map

Part Three: Becoming Aware of the Hidden Forces in My Relationships

9. Romantic Partners
10. Family and Friends
11. Colleagues
12. Other Relationships

Part Four: Feeling Good - Learning to Take Control of My Life

13. Taking Care of Myself
14. Managing My Emotions
15. Managing My Behaviours
16. Where Can I Get Further Help?

Part Five: Additional Information

17. Strengths and Limitations of Research Evidence

Afterword - Eva, Dan, Jas and Zac...

Further Reading

References

Index

List of Figures

Figure 2.1 Circles of context

Figure 2.2 Johari Window

Figure 2.3 Johari Window after Self-Exploration

Figure 3.1 The Attachment Cycle - Development of Trust & Secure Attachment

Figure 3.1 Development of Emotional Understanding & Regulation

Figure 3.1 Development of Shame

Figure 3.1 Relationship Repair

Figure 4.1 Secure Attachment Style

Figure 4.1 Pyramid of Personal Fulfilment

Figure 4.1 Anxious Attachment Style

Figure 4.1 Avoidant Attachment Style

Figure 4.1 Disorganised Attachment Style

List of Tables

Table 4.1 Labels Given to Infant and Adult Attachment Styles

Table 4.2 Bowlby's Original Classification of Attachment Styles

Table 5.1 Adult Attachment Behaviours

Table 14.1 Universal Emotional States

Table 14.1 Forms of Dissociation

Table 14.1 Symptoms of Post-Traumatic Stress

List of Exercises

Exercise 6.1 Assessment Flowchart

Exercise 6.2 Genogram Symbols

Exercise 6.1 Eva's Genogram

Exercise 6.1 Zac's Genogram

Exercise 7.1 Attachment Style Vignettes

Exercise 7.1 My Attachment Style Questionnaire

Exercise 7.1 My Attachment Style Questionnaire - Eva

Exercise 7.1 My Attachment Style Questionnaire - Dan

Exercise 7.1 My Attachment Style Questionnaire - Jas

Exercise 7.1 My Attachment Style Questionnaire - Zac

Exercise 8.1 Five P's Formulation

Exercise 8.1 Nine Steps Formulation

Exercise 8.1 Eva's Formulation Map

Exercise 8.1 Dan's Five P's Formulation

Exercise 8.1 Jas's Formulation Picture

Exercise 8.1 Zac's Formulation Story

Exercise 14.1 Jas's Record of Emotions

Exercise 15.1 Self-Imposed Barriers to Change

Exercise 15.2 ROSE acronym for managing intense emotion

Exercise 16.1 Subjective Units of Distress for Measuring Progress

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