Lair Torrent, LMFT, is a clinically trained and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a mindfulness-based relationship therapist. Lair is a DialyOm Best Selling Author and has been a contributing columnist at [...]; he writes, speaks publicly, holds workshops and seminars on relationships, mindfulness, as well as mindfulness and its effects on racism and children. Lair has published articles on his work and has been resourced and interviewed by such notable news outlets and publications as NPR, Rolling Stone, and The New York Times for his expertise in working with those in struggling relationships.

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Acknowledgements

Preface

Part 1, Guidepost 1: Mindfulness

Chapter 1: Guidepost1: What is Mindfulness?

Chapter 2: Why is Mindfulness so Important for Couples?

Chapter 3: How to Practice Mindfulness in your Relationship

Chapter 4: The Practice:

Part 2, Guidepost 2: The Parts of Us

Chapter 5: What are Our Parts?

Chapter 6: Why Are Our Parts so Important?

Chapter 7: How Our Parts Work

Chapter 8: Parts Exercises.

Part 3, Guidepost 3: The Narrative

Chapter 9: What is the Narrative?

Chapter 10: Why Our Narratives Are so Important

Chapter 11: How to Use the Narrative.

Chapter 12: The Practice

Part 4, Guidepost 4, Choosing.

Chapter 13, What is Choosing?

Chapter 14, Why Choosing is so Important to Connection.

Chapter 15, How to Choose

Chapter 16: The Practice. Choosing Exercises:

Part 5, Guidepost 5, Personal Responsibility

Chapter 17, What is Personal Responsibility

Chapter 18. Why Personal Responsibility is Integral to Relationships

Chapter 19. How to Take Personal Responsibility

Chapter 20. In Conclusion

Chapter 21. The Practice. Personal Responsibility Exercises

Bibliography

Notes

Index

About the Author